Quote Originally Posted by Aokiji1234543212 View Post
I know it shouldnt happen. I kept telling myself for weeks now . Like i cant catch a feeling with this girl.
So first time visited her, she was new in the shop. And we secretly exchanged our number. She got boyfriend. We texting once in a while i got it she got boyfriend so cant really reply on me.

Second visit. Nearly drop her home , but her boyfriend come to pick her up. Then the next night at 1am in the morning . She texted me asking if i am still up , she s trying to catch up for a drink.


Third visit when things goes a bit wild. I gave her a letter . Written in japanese. And a cute doll keychain. She was really happy. Even when she open the door at the shop and found out it was me. She was like so excited. Asked her to be honest like . If u dont want catch up or text from me just please tell me . So i can back up . But she say just keep texting her from different apps so her boyfriend not gonna find out and we set up a catch up this coming Saturday but not sure yet. At the very last session i asked for selfie. Not to mention . We have a nat sex as well. Which is i believe she didnt do it with someone else.


What should i do now ?

Im pretty fucked up and exhausted

She is japanese. So i believe shes pretty honest
Bro, here’s the deal: you’re out here thinking you’re falling for this girl, but lemme break it down like this – you’re not in love. You’re in emotional confusion, because this situation’s all kinds of messy, like when you’re on a smooth ride, but the GPS sends you through the worst possible neighborhood.

Let’s keep it real: she’s got a boyfriend, you’re sneaking around, and now you’re feeling some type of way because of the “nat sex” (which, by the way, always gets dudes caught up – it’s that mind trick, man). But here’s the kicker – you’re in a transactional setup, and she’s playing two roles: one for her boyfriend, and one for you. Now, that sounds like a business deal to me. If you’re paying for service, don’t expect to catch feelings. It’s like buying a cheeseburger and proposing to the cook.

In the immortal words of my man, Meng, “Even if she leaves her BF for you, how long until you’re the next dude hiding texts?” It’s like swapping places, but this time you’re the sucker in the cycle. And don’t even start with “she’s Japanese so she’s honest” – bro, honesty ain’t got a nationality, it’s got actions. And these actions? All kinds of red flags.

You’ve got a therapist? Nah, man, you’ve got someone getting paid to make people feel good. You’re the customer, so don’t confuse that good feeling with love.

Here’s the advice: you need to detach. Take a deep breath and realize, you’re not her savior, and this ain’t a rom-com. The best thing you can do for your own sanity is to hit the brakes, pull a “Forrest Gump” and run, because if you don’t, you’ll end up more messed up than when you started. She’s gonna keep living her life, and you’ll be sitting there all twisted up.