Reply With QuoteIve slowed right down now. My regular left for good in September last year and I'm not feeling it anymore. I haven't stopped but im putting my money into other things, like the house and travelling.
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This is a bit serious query
I do feel I am pretty stucked on punting, recently been thinking more from the boy than a straight head. I had the same scene going on before 2022 when I was so into seeing escorts and brothel, back then I was wild young so it was all good. Now I feel I got myself into the same situation, it started as getting over my sexual urge as I have been away from action, while I am living in a distance with my partner for a time being, but now it got me so much into it that its min 2/3 punts a week.
I am not comfortable sharing this issue with my friends or closed one because of the obvious reason, Internet help is full of bs. Has anyone been in the similar situation, was able to quit or limit it to minimal like once in 2m/month.
Ive slowed right down now. My regular left for good in September last year and I'm not feeling it anymore. I haven't stopped but im putting my money into other things, like the house and travelling.
I severely slowed down and lost interest, although living in Bangkok I'll admit the novelty has re-ignited it a little.
Guess it's a revolving door, theres no WL currently on the syd rosters that I truely yearn for.
Two to three times a week is not economically smart, even if you have the cash and can throw it around.
I've cut back from once a week to 3 times a month (every 10-12 days) since early last year and it's working fine.
---No matter how you look at it, punting is a lot cheaper than divorce.---
Thats great, I am not being able to get my mind off it on the forum or on punt, it is pretty f*** up right now ? Only time off these when I am in the work , in the friends places, or while talking to friends, parents , partner. Its out of controlOriginally Posted by Themassageking
I think to cut down or quit, you need to first know why you want to do that. If its something you enjoy then why stop?
I've been punting for almost 30 years now cos I enjoy fucking different women, and like the buzz it goves me. Its like chasing the ultimate wave, always the one better than your best ever.
But if you wanna quit, well fuck you got a long change ahead of you from punting 2-3x per week. Maybe join a local church, or community service or doggie walker.
2-3x a week is heavy in Sydney. Plus its expensive and often mediocre. Try to think in terms of risk vs reward. Ask yourself, did she really earn her pay? What else could you have had for that amount of money? That may have been better?
Yeah you gotta keep it all in perspective.
Hey mate, hope you’re alright. I feel ya.
I’ve quit entirely recently after going at it for the past 2.5 years I’d say or thereabouts. I’m a young fella, pair that with stuff I use, I’ve got an insane libido and full of energy.
That being said, reason I quit is because it’s time to really get serious with my life and honestly, I’m done indulging in such degeneracy.
Had a good reflection of myself and what I wanted out of life. As a result, didn’t gradually reduce my punting frequency, just stopped cold turkey.
The thought of punting does go through my mind every now and then, and the urge does appear but thank god for that deep reflection because it’s honestly stuck with me and has been the catalyst for my change and the thing that keeps me in check.
I’ll admit, it was fun. It was a good stress reliever and a form of escapism.
Have been thinking about leaving punting behind for a while now and I know a first step is probably breaking ties with this forum and similar sites. Checking such sites keeps you connected.
I think you need to create an effective barrier between your impulse to punt and your ability to act on it.
Money is obviously needed to punt, so maybe you can try to limit your access to money so that it’s very hard for you to act on your impulse to punt more than once a month.
I don’t know how your finances are arranged so I can’t tell you what to do, but it needs to be done in a way so that you’re not just relying on your willpower. You need to use tools that can help you help yourself. For example, many banks have features that you can use to control how you spend your money. There’s also a lot online about the things that that people with a gambling addiction can do to limit or prevent access to money - maybe you can use some of these strategies?
By limiting your access to money this way, you’re making it much easier for yourself to not punt because you can’t act on the impulse when it arises. No money, no problems.
Now, this doesn’t stop the urge to punt. It just stops the punting. But maybe the urges will subside over time as you do less actual punting, and you find that you can become better at controlling them like urmumsurdad. You can also do things to take your mind off the urge, like Aussiehotguy suggested.
Good luck.
When I look back and think of how much money I've spent at massage shops and brothels over the last 30+ years, I am confident it was enough to pay off a mortgage on an investment property. Sure, you do not feel pleasure and cannot "fuck" a house or apartment, but it is a huge amount of money.
In today's dollars, around $200 per week x 50 weeks x 30 years = $300,000.
It is cheaper than a divorce, is be the only consolation.
And as I wrote a while ago, some of the girls I used to see at Upmarket Bathhouse in Crows Nest would be in their late 60s and early 70s today.
---No matter how you look at it, punting is a lot cheaper than divorce
This is basically how I justify it to myself from a cost perspective, along with the whole you only live once thing.
At the end of the day you need to understand why you are doing it and balance that with the cost. I know why I'm doing it and I'm comfortable with the cost versus the alternative costs, quite frankly.
Sex Addiction / Compulsive Behaviour Check
Control
1. I’ve tried to cut down or stop… and
failed
2. I tell myself “last time” but repeat it
3. I go further than I planned (time,
money, intensity)
Preoccupation
4. I think about sex / porn / escorts a lot
during the day
5. It distracts me from work or important tasks
6. I plan opportunities around it
Escalation
7. I need more frequency or intensity
than before
8. Things that used to satisfy me don’t
anymore
9. I’ve drifted into stuff I didn’t originally
intend to do
Emotional use
10. I use it when stressed, bored, lonely,
or low
11. It gives temporary relief, then drops off
12. I feel pulled to it when I’m not feeling
good
Consequences
13. It has affected my work, focus, or
energy
14. It has affected relationships or trust
15. I’ve spent more money than I should
on it
Risk / secrecy
16. I hide it (phones, apps, lies, double
life)
17. I’ve taken risks I normally wouldn’t
18. I’d be uncomfortable if people knew
the full extent
Aftermath
19. I feel guilt, shame, or regret afterward
20. I still go back to it anyway
21. I feel restless or off when I try to stop
• 0–5 YES → Normal / high libido territory
• 6–10 YES → Grey zone (watch it)
• 11–15 YES → Problem pattern forming
• 16+ YES → Likely compulsive / addictive
pattern
Try this
Stop completely for 30 days
• Easy → you’re in control
• Difficult but doable → habit
• Can’t do it / keep relapsing → compulsion
And them if you recognise you are in the shit and prepared to make change
Call a counsellor
Each punter's ability to stop is different. We can't just blindly say "I did it, so can you" because there are so many factors involved.
For me, it happened almost organically. I didn't have to put much effort into it because a few factors came together that made me just stop going. Work location changed a few times making it harder for me to get to the shops or even private girls, J girl overload / pining for quality C girls, fear of getting caught out after rolling the dice one too many times on BB, then it morphed into feeling the satisfaction of having more money in my pocket simply without punting.
Plus, a big factor for me was I am still very attracted to my wife. I have great sex at home.
For OP, I think it's going to be harder to stop because his partner is OS. So he's going to be craving for sex with no release, and jerking off is probably not going to count for much. I daresay his best chance of stopping is to actually cheat on his partner. Get a new GF... But I am not advising that of course!
Within one day we've gone from long winded m/l quest to a quit punting thread. Let's see how this account develops.
I hear ya bro. Very troll-ish vibe coming from this one.
I'm in the top tax bracket and single. So it's no brainer for me.
If you think about building a family, or even a possibility of it, also please avoid. This shit is pure degeneracy.
Also 2-3x a week is excessive, please have self control. Once a week at most
I'm in the same boat but honestly I wish I could slow down at least as I know realistically I can't go cold turkey.
Maybe his off-shore GF is returning, visit or permanent. Or maybe she's heard rumors of "straying"... Or maybe she had a look at the lad's bank statement... or even asked about how close he is to putting a down payment on a house...
I do feel, now that he’s finished his quest, he can drop the game now.
But yea, grab some popcorn and see how it unfolds.
Last punt was on 18/11/2025 with Rika from gc, including all extras. I hope I keep going sober for more years
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