It is good to see a serious discussion, I don't know about you guys but hanging out at a pub/club/bar trying to chat up chicks has never been something I have been good at, besides I find those places boring. Dating sites can be good, just don't be too sensitive about being unceremoniously un-friended or ignored, it is probably best to just get a few dates without expectations so that you can regain your confidence. There seems to be swarms of asian ladies around the late 30's to 40's mark looking for a guy. At first I thought GSOH was Good Sense Of Humour, but really it is Good Salary, Own Home, you can use these as marketing but a serious relationship needs to be built on more substantial foundations. Being serious though eternal true love is not easy, compromises need to be made, luck is necessary and hard work to keep the relationship intact irregardless of who your future partner may be.

Goodluck