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Plenty of dudes like to imagine they’re the most confident Don Juans around—even though they’re actually pretty damn anxious when the clothes are about to come off.
Let's keep this thread rolling by providing newbies with vital information.
So what do you do when having sex with someone new gives you a major case of anxiety?
For context, are you talking about a guy's very first time? Or just the first time with any sex partner?
The first thing to do is build up your self confidence, and the best way to do than is to improve your self image.
Diet and exercise so get in the best in shape as possible, also yoga is important as it teaches you how to stretch and improve your breathing techniques, and this stops you cumming to quickly.
Grooming and personal hygiene so get a haircut, trim everything else so its neat and tidy shower regularly and use deodorants and cologne
Clothing is important as first impressions is the first perception the girl makes of you. So dress clean, neat and tidy,
Now a good way to get over your fear of talking to women is to go clothes shopping and ask the retail girl for some help, this will help with confidence.
When it comes to newbies punting I recommend you start of with a massage, and ask the girl for a NHJ or NBJ, you don’t have to do anything but lie their and enjoy it, than repeat this until you feel like its just normal routine and are comfortable with it.
Than its time to progress to full service
I recommend you go to a decent brothel with a decent line up of girls, you can check their rosters on their websites and choose a day where the girl you like is working,
Now once you have chose the girl and all business transactions are settle you want to start off slowly, and don’t forget to do your yoga breathing to keep yourself calm
Hold hands, some light kissing, even help each other get undress together, than step into the shower and help each other wash and dry off together, than go to the bed and continue with some light kissing, than the girl will step up into her routine and will go for a hj BJ, don’t let her do too much otherwise you will blow quickly
Just remember to be gentle and take your time and breath, she is woman of course and you want to enjoy your time with her, once your passion has kick in don’t forget to raise your tempo and rhythm while fucking to get you both over the line,
Always be polite and kind to the girls as they are in the same situation as you are having sex with a stranger for money
100mg viagra, 1hr before touchdown. Stay hydrated.....
What a fantastic and thoughtful response, I was going to say just go through with it as it gets better over time but I still get nervous every time. Your response is better.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hidden Python
Your anxiety will go down with time but do everything that mr python recommended and it will help you
Adjust your lifestyle & allow your confidence to manifest.
You're too much in your head. This isn't a math exam. Enjoy the experience, don't think about the destination. Enjoy the journey of sex.
Don't compare yourself to others, live your own life. Relax.
Yes, HP trumped my one-liner! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by ditchtheboss
I am always nervous as anything, still, even if I've been to the shop 10 times and seen the girl a few times.... I have IBS the day of the punt, going to the toot at least 5 times, my BP is through the roof, heart rate up - on the way to my first punt my fitness watch started congratulating me as I was 'fat burning'! I think my HR was about 130..... That girl was very new - only a few shifts in, and was a little nervous too - we had a laugh about the watch.... find something to have a chuckle about with the girl....
I usually have a few beers and a couple of fags. But this is no different to any other night.
But I’ll pop 100mg of Sildenafil or similar an hour before.
Can't really add much to what has already been said but familiarity with the shop surroundings helps too...today I was tempted to go to Rydalmere - specifically 22 Rydalmere - and I even drove there but chickened out because I felt too exposed on the street, even though it is unlikely I would bang into anyone I know in the area, but it does make me feel more nervous. I then went for my familiar haunt, 41 Epping, and my nerves settled pretty quickly...
Still want to try , but how do it feels after sexing with viagra?Quote:
Originally Posted by bung72
I have been punting many years but still nervous about watching and waiting, which makes me also excitedQuote:
Originally Posted by danaussieguy
After or during?? Feels the same to me - it really shores up your erection, makes it very reliable and quick. I could easily get a bit soft while doing DATY - not sure why, I love it, but viagra stops that.... 100mg is a fairly high dose - makes me a bit nauseous sometimes, but worth it.... :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Sexybee
I actually wish i was nervous when i go punt. Back in the day as a newbie, there was a sense of nervousness and excitement.
Now its as exciting as picking up a whooper at hungry jacks
Just take a couple of deep breaths, and remember that no matter the outcome, you're going to enjoy the experience either way.
That's no good.... my watch tells me I'm fat burning when driving to the shop my HR is up so much. I was worried at first that all that adrenaline was going to kill my boner, but the viagra triumphed!Quote:
Originally Posted by kpopcity
I a little bit worried about if viagra me more longer, maybe time is up and not shooting. Also worried if very tired after puntingQuote:
Originally Posted by bung72
Where are you guys feeling nervousness? I've only ever felt nervousness when I've been on my way to the shop, knowing that someone may see me walking in and know what I'm there for. I've never felt nervous once I'm inside the shop. But as I've punted more and more I've cared less and less of what someone might think if they see me walking in so I don't feel as nervous anymore. So to answer the OP I would say the solution is to punt more :)
I still remember my first time. My heart was beating so crazy and i came out too quickly. overall its about just go in, the nervousness and excitement are all part of the experience.
Try it out at home first mate.... see if you like it....Quote:
Originally Posted by Sexybee
Hi! It can be your first time with a new girl or first time "ever" with a girlQuote:
Originally Posted by Footballpunter
Very well said sir!Quote:
Originally Posted by Hidden Python
I like that! don't compare your self with othersQuote:
Originally Posted by Shoryureppa
hahaha good one mate!Quote:
Originally Posted by Ghost2hauntU
Bone saw is readyyyy!Quote:
Originally Posted by bung72
Correct! true to that!Quote:
Originally Posted by MrPB