WTF man. But Surely she knows you are already married, if you are doing this to your wife, the ML will be thinking, he could go behind my back when we are together too. And now that she met a non punter BF, she feels safer with him. At least she knows less chance of him punting behind her back.

Sorry man, usually I'm sympathetic when the girls flake out on guys all of a sudden like that other poster that was seeing the Jap ML. But punting and pursuing a MLrelationship behind your wife is no go zone. I'm all on the side of the ML in this case. You should just forget about this and go back to your wife or at least give her a settlement.