What are your ML dating experiences

[Basil22]

See my first post upon joining this forum, and my most recent one, for how hard it is to learn the lesson to not fall for a ML/WL. Haha, no but seriously, first time around I learnt a lot and the relationship very well could have succeeded, were it not for some extenuating circumstances for both of us... the philosophical question that I've often grappled with is whether there would ALWAYS be extenuating circumstances of some sort in these relationships, or whether it might have worked with this one if we fought for it. I usually come back to no.

I learnt a lot from the first time, but around mid last year I caught feels again for an ML after swearing I wouldn't. After a few shitty weeks for me, we are now pretty good friends, texting often but with clear boundaries - that she set. I am in a relationship (same as before), but if this was 4 years ago I probably would've ended up fighting harder to get her - I am pretty certain if I did then it would've ended the same way as last time. Having said that, I would've had 6-12 months of a really good time!!

The major difference this time around, is that whilst I acknowledged the feelings, I didn't really energise them all that much. Sure there were some sleepless nights but I never really considered leaving my relationship as I did the first time. If anything it made me philosophise about why I do this to myself haha

The fact that so many people engage with this question despite its frequent occurrence on the forum, means that we are not all as depraved and unfeeling as BC, fucking BB in Western Sydney brothels and never giving a second thought Ehehe, just jokes but it's obvious to me that a lot of us (including myself) are sensitive guys and easily find ourselves in prickly situations with working girls.

There's no teacher as good as experience, so I say go for it but be prepared that it may end in heartbreak for you! I don't think it's about being 'burnt' by the girl so much as the difficulty in making these relationships work long term.

Yew, go forth and let us know how it goes