An update on some of my friends:
After borders opened, it was like the horses running out of the stables for the couples to file for divorce first. Unsurprisingly it was mostly my friends (ex)wives that filed first.

Some of them got taken to the cleaners losing their houses, child support (some) and for a few luckily they didn't have kids yet as they were not too long married. Most were married under 10 years & some for only around 3. It boggles the mind when thinking that the ex partners basically earned $3-400K based on the values of the properties & assets being split & thinking of how many ML/WL sessions they could have had and still with money left over.

When we caught-up after the fact, I asked them about when the crux period was; when they weren't going to work at their relationships and they stated that it was when they were enjoying or proactively looking for or eagerly waiting until the time they could spend absent from their spouses. Away from the nagging, complaining, nit-picking, and when after all their attempts to work on things their former partners were whinging about, instead of relationship improvements or thinking the issues have generally been resolved, they (partners) found new ones to complain about.

Have seen a wide personality change between them. Some are making positive changes going to the gym, wardrobe overhall and a not give a fuck attitude hitting tinder like crazy & some need more support being down in the dumps. They said they got to a point of not caring anymore and knowing they were fighting an uphill battle that wasn't worth fighting for anymore.
Some of the wives were still attractive but didnt light a candle to their former looks. Some ballooned-up after a few kids and the ones that couldn't conceive (even with help) drifted apart and became almost estrained.

One thing that is conclusive across the board is that none of them (my friends) want to get married again. Their words: "marriage for men ended in our parents generation. There's no upside for men today. Too risky, too expensive & look at all thst I have lost."

Some that dated exclusively whites or Europeans are wanting to get their feet wet dating Asians though I have warned that women are the same regardless what race they are & others are going the extra mile & are seriously considering moving to Singapore or Thailand.

-Matt-