Wives and girlfriends

[BelowAverage]

I'm married with kids. Being below average in size it feels different after missus gave birth.

[random punter]

Im in a similar boat with some of you.
When we first met wed fuck multiple times a week.
Once she got pregnant her sex drive dropped a bit plus started getting painful to have sex for her.
Once she had our daughter it got even worse plus being back on the pill destroyed what she had.
She did let me fuck her tits just for me to get some load off but its not quite the same.
Shes off the pill now and has got a bit better but maybe once every 1-2 weeks.

Tempted to just get my scratch itched but dont want to get caught and lose it all

[Sendmetheacti]

Im in a similar boat with some of you.
When we first met wed fuck multiple times a week.
Once she got pregnant her sex drive dropped a bit plus started getting painful to have sex for her.
Once she had our daughter it got even worse plus being back on the pill destroyed what she had.
She did let me fuck her tits just for me to get some load off but its not quite the same.
Shes off the pill now and has got a bit better but maybe once every 1-2 weeks.

Tempted to just get my scratch itched but dont want to get caught and lose it all

Haha once every 1-2 weeks is great.

The last time I entered my wife was 2021 December lmao.
Blessing and a curse. Curse because we're a great couple, we still sleep together etc. No kids. Sucks to not have intimacy.

Blessing because without intimacy, I there's no chance of passing anything on, so I just need to take care of myself. So I can just get buck wild with whatever Jap slut.

[AllInJimmy]

I find it strange you say you are a great couple. No offence mate. I feel as though intimacy is intrinsic to a good relationship. Sleeping in the same bed doesn't mean shit. Now if you had quoted all the great things about your relationship it might make more sense.

I feel as though only kids are a reasonable excuse for shit to fizzle. Even then it's still borderline unacceptable. There are too many blokes settling for shit relationships... And that's why you are all here. This is your outlet.

[blackm0nk]

Yeah kinda sounds like just mates at that point..

[bung72]

I look at punting as an extension of watching porn..... why do we watch porn? Men are visual creatures.... that is what does it for us. For me, it's live porn. It doesn't matter how much I've ever been getting with a wife or GF, I've still watched porn. Dudes married to super models and absolutely gorgeous women, still watch porn, and fool around on them too..... it's the world's oldest profession for a reason, and that isn't just to satisfy a tiny niche of weird perverts.... for every 1 married dude on here punting, there are probably 100 not on here, punting away....

[Axeman123]

Im in a similar boat with some of you.
When we first met wed fuck multiple times a week.
Once she got pregnant her sex drive dropped a bit plus started getting painful to have sex for her.
Once she had our daughter it got even worse plus being back on the pill destroyed what she had.
She did let me fuck her tits just for me to get some load off but its not quite the same.
Shes off the pill now and has got a bit better but maybe once every 1-2 weeks.

Tempted to just get my scratch itched but dont want to get caught and lose it all

Off the pill. Your lady is thinking of another baby. Nothing wrong with that though.

[fnmfnmfnm]

Off the pill. Your lady is thinking of another baby. Nothing wrong with that though.

Not necessarily, the pill fucks with women’s hormones a great deal and for some it’s just way easier to be off it and just be vigilant with condoms when it comes to bed time, especially if the sex isn’t regular.

[Reaper6]

That's not true man. I suspected she was screwing around so much, but no.

Snooped phones, computers, everything. She just doesn't do anything sexy.

She's not asexual or something because when we met we fucked like jackrabbits every time.

It's just after 2-3 years/marriage she just started saying it's painful etc. then basically just stopped everything... The ole headache every night.

I was understanding at first and then after like a year of that, I started pushing her to see a doc or a therapist or something which she didn't want to do.


Then she basically showed no interest in even talking about it.

Brother I'm sorry for your situation, but if it's any consolation I have a very similar one myself and this is the first time I've read about someone else in a similar boat.

Same deal, went at it like rabbits in the start, life got in the way it slowed down , suddenly it became "Painful" , then had a kid so no one even thought about fucking for months due to exhaustion , now it's just not a topic anymore. I'd estimate once every few months, feels forced.
Much like yourself though, in every other aspect get along perfect.
Wierd as. Only reason I'm on here.

[Sendmetheacti]

She carries her weight financially, hugs and cuddles if things go wrong, we have a half paid off house, don't argue at all, don't get in each other's way, help each other out with work.

I drive her around as she doesnt drive, she organises meals sometimes.

Honestly it's like a room mate best friend.
Which ain't bad.
Mix It with some punting and it's an enjoyable life.
Ya play the cards your dealt.

[forgotmyumbrella]

Do I love my wife? Yes
Do I want to fuck her? Nah I'm good

Do I wanna smash young Asian hotties? Hell yeah
Do I like them? Not a chance

The man who chases two rabbits, catches neither.
Many foolish men expect both, that's where their marriage falls apart.
Same goes for some punters here who fall in love with hookers.

[HardCockInSyd]

It is a lot of crap about women not wanting sex. They are the same as men, they want closeness, sex and not boredom. If you are screwing around then you can bet they are as well.

This is only true to a point - as women get older and have either mental health issues or go through menopause, their sex drive can completely disappear. Ask me how I know.....

[Rdlr84]

I’ve had a super dry run most of my married life. Had sex maybe 20 times over the last 13 years with my partner. For me it’s a case of having no physical attraction to the wife from the start. We spoke about it recently when she had an outburst on why I don’t reciprocate her advances, don’t cuddle, kiss etc. We have a great friend type relationship but no intimacy. I opened up fully and recently told her my true feelings. Weight off the chest but hurt her feelings real bad. Navigating the situation now with therapy about to start soon. I’ve been getting my sexual needs filled through other means this whole time. Mainly masturbation. Sometimes massages and the occasional FS. I wish I had this with my wife, I would probably not punt - hard to be sure though as I haven’t been in those shoes.


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[fixatedperson]

I’ve had a super dry run most of my married life. Had sex maybe 20 times over the last 13 years with my partner. For me it’s a case of having no physical attraction to the wife from the start. We spoke about it recently when she had an outburst on why I don’t reciprocate her advances, don’t cuddle, kiss etc. We have a great friend type relationship but no intimacy. I opened up fully and recently told her my true feelings. Weight off the chest but hurt her feelings real bad. Navigating the situation now with therapy about to start soon. I’ve been getting my sexual needs filled through other avenues this whole time. Mainly masturbation. Sometimes massages and the occasional FS. I wish I had this with my wife, I would probably not punt - hard to be sure though as I haven’t been in those shoes.


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If you don't mind me asking, if you had no physical attraction to your wife from the start, what prompted you to marry her?

[Rdlr84]

Arranged marriage. Yes they are a thing in some cultures.


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[Pysterio1]

If my wife gave me her amazing bjs again I wouldnt think about punting again

I have been caught once earlier.. Haven't been back but every now and then im tempted

I've come to realise it's who I am

So best for me is to avoid those situations, make sure I self report my whereabouts, etc etc and try to focus more on her. It's harder but itd what we signed up for when going monogamy

Divorce ain't worth it

[justincase]

Some people need a relationship to feel secure, others don’t….

[Double_Adapter]

Arranged marriage. Yes they are a thing in some cultures.
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Based on all the comments here it seems that if a bloke walks into a regular marriage it's basically suicide but if he steps into an arranged marriage it's straight up murder.....just saying

[Rdlr84]

Double homicide


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[bung72]

If my wife gave me her amazing bjs again I wouldnt think about punting again

I have been caught once earlier.. Haven't been back but every now and then im tempted

I've come to realise it's who I am

So best for me is to avoid those situations, make sure I self report my whereabouts, etc etc and try to focus more on her. It's harder but itd what we signed up for when going monogamy

Divorce ain't worth it

So... the lesson is - don't get caught?