I understand that it's tough situation. We have families and social lives around.
I'm not sure about others. Some of my colleagues want to be free to earn money. They want a good life with luxurious items around them, or they have to support their families. Some don't like serious relationships but just want sex partners.
Personally, I need someone who misses me indeed and be honest to me. A real relationship that I can be myself to him, and I can please him and make him happy.
The problem is I don't know if he's genuine or not, needs me to walk through the storms together or just wants my body. Also, I need time to prepare for my next steps. It's hard to stop everything suddenly without preparing. It doesn't mean that I chose money instead of him and he's not important to me. It's very easy if I just live for myself but I don't want to be a burden of anyone I love.
But he gets paranoid that I don't have enough time for him and instead of belong to him only, I let other guys look and touch me. And that's my fault.