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    I'd be embarassed if my gf was a ml/wl... it brings shame to your family

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    Quote Originally Posted by Newbee View Post
    I'd be embarassed if my gf was a ml/wl... it brings shame to your family
    What a sad thing to say.
    I've met a few ML's I would very happily have as a girlfriend (though she would have to stop working, I would get too jealous/paranoid).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Newbee View Post
    I'd be embarassed if my gf was a ml/wl... it brings shame to your family
    Nobody has to know what she has done to make her money.
    Smart wls/mls work long enough to get ahead then get out of the industry.
    With the right financial advice it can easily be done.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Newbee View Post
    I'd be embarassed if my gf was a ml/wl... it brings shame to your family
    Shut up you ...lol.
    No one is asking you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by woods23 View Post
    Shut up you ...lol.
    No one is asking you!
    Here we go again...

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    Actually many ML don't want to have a boyfriend. They want to be free to earn their money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Newbee View Post
    I'd be embarassed if my gf was a ml/wl... it brings shame to your family
    I understand that it's tough situation. We have families and social lives around.
    Quote Originally Posted by garfield View Post
    Actually many ML don't want to have a boyfriend. They want to be free to earn their money.
    I'm not sure about others. Some of my colleagues want to be free to earn money. They want a good life with luxurious items around them, or they have to support their families. Some don't like serious relationships but just want sex partners.

    Personally, I need someone who misses me indeed and be honest to me. A real relationship that I can be myself to him, and I can please him and make him happy.
    The problem is I don't know if he's genuine or not, needs me to walk through the storms together or just wants my body. Also, I need time to prepare for my next steps. It's hard to stop everything suddenly without preparing. It doesn't mean that I chose money instead of him and he's not important to me. It's very easy if I just live for myself but I don't want to be a burden of anyone I love.
    But he gets paranoid that I don't have enough time for him and instead of belong to him only, I let other guys look and touch me. And that's my fault.

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    From what I have seen and heard from personal friends.

    1. (STRONG RECOMMENDATION) TRY NOT TO date a ML/WL if you cant support her financially. Rollercoaster of emotions coming
    2. First 3-4 months you/her will know if its genuine. Hence it repeats to rule 1. She aint going to quit if you cant support her financially.
    3. If you really want to and financially your not able to support her. Just be prepared and be strong.

    But in saying so its nothing different to a normal relationship. It requires both parties to work together. My mates both poor and rich have ML wives. Communication and trust are the most important aspects of any relationship but money makes things a lot easier. And the MLs are not gold diggers well the MLs who are my mates wives now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by simplelife View Post
    From what I have seen and heard from personal friends.

    1. (STRONG RECOMMENDATION) TRY NOT TO date a ML/WL if you cant support her financially. Rollercoaster of emotions coming
    2. First 3-4 months you/her will know if its genuine. Hence it repeats to rule 1. She aint going to quit if you cant support her financially.
    3. If you really want to and financially your not able to support her. Just be prepared and be strong.

    But in saying so its nothing different to a normal relationship. It requires both parties to work together. My mates both poor and rich have ML wives. Communication and trust are the most important aspects of any relationship but money makes things a lot easier. And the MLs are not gold diggers well the MLs who are my mates wives now.
    Agreed. Communication and trust are very important. Instead of being openly, after few months, I find it difficult to communicate that made me deliberate .

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    I'm not into relationships -1 hour with a girl is like a happy 5 year marriage for me.
    So whether a girl is a nurse, or lawyer, or ML, or WL, or waitress makes no difference to me - I'm not gonna date her either way ...
    I wish them all happiness with a nice guy ...

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    What babycat, simplelife, and some others have said are true. I can relate to it because my girlfriend is a ML.

    Initially, it was difficult for both - I would walk the line of paranoia about her work and she was not too sure about me being genuine, as she would ponder if I still visited massage shops. It took effort and time to build trust and understanding, as well as acceptance. Communication was a barrier because her level of English was poor.

    I don't exactly like what she does at work, but she has assured me she knows her limits - no sex with customers and limited touching. She appears to value herself and our relationship, so that goes a long way. I have looked beyong her massage work as it is not life time.

    Looking at the bigger picture, what would be more sinister and morally worse - a ML who provides extras, or a husband / boyfriend / wife / girlfriend who has an affair? At least with the former, you know it is her work and she doesn't hide it; whereas with an affair, it is corruption of the heart.

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    will work out fine."

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    Quote Originally Posted by TallyHo View Post
    What babycat, simplelife, and some others have said are true. I can relate to it because my girlfriend is a ML.

    Initially, it was difficult for both - I would walk the line of paranoia about her work and she was not too sure about me being genuine, as she would ponder if I still visited massage shops. It took effort and time to build trust and understanding, as well as acceptance. Communication was a barrier because her level of English was poor.

    I don't exactly like what she does at work, but she has assured me she knows her limits - no sex with customers and limited touching. She appears to value herself and our relationship, so that goes a long way. I have looked beyong her massage work as it is not life time.

    Looking at the bigger picture, what would be more sinister and morally worse - a ML who provides extras, or a husband / boyfriend / wife / girlfriend who has an affair? At least with the former, you know it is her work and she doesn't hide it; whereas with an affair, it is corruption of the heart.
    You wanna hope she does not have an account on this forum then ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Babycat View Post
    I understand that it's tough situation. We have families and social lives around.

    I'm not sure about others. Some of my colleagues want to be free to earn money. They want a good life with luxurious items around them, or they have to support their families. Some don't like serious relationships but just want sex partners.

    Personally, I need someone who misses me indeed and be honest to me. A real relationship that I can be myself to him, and I can please him and make him happy.
    The problem is I don't know if he's genuine or not, needs me to walk through the storms together or just wants my body. Also, I need time to prepare for my next steps. It's hard to stop everything suddenly without preparing. It doesn't mean that I chose money instead of him and he's not important to me. It's very easy if I just live for myself but I don't want to be a burden of anyone I love.
    But he gets paranoid that I don't have enough time for him and instead of belong to him only, I let other guys look and touch me. And that's my fault.
    I think you have a good perspective. When you meet your man, he will be very lucky.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TallyHo View Post
    What babycat, simplelife, and some others have said are true. I can relate to it because my girlfriend is a ML.

    Initially, it was difficult for both - I would walk the line of paranoia about her work and she was not too sure about me being genuine, as she would ponder if I still visited massage shops. It took effort and time to build trust and understanding, as well as acceptance. Communication was a barrier because her level of English was poor.

    I don't exactly like what she does at work, but she has assured me she knows her limits - no sex with customers and limited touching. She appears to value herself and our relationship, so that goes a long way. I have looked beyong her massage work as it is not life time.

    Looking at the bigger picture, what would be more sinister and morally worse - a ML who provides extras, or a husband / boyfriend / wife / girlfriend who has an affair? At least with the former, you know it is her work and she doesn't hide it; whereas with an affair, it is corruption of the heart.
    who could give us guarantee that if our partner is not an ML or a WL that our love life will be happily ever after?

    after all, this is just another borderline case and Brother TallyHo wish you all the best and hopefully you don't make your love on a wasteland

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    Quote Originally Posted by garfield View Post
    I think you have a good perspective. When you meet your man, he will be very lucky.
    I had a painful experiences instead. I thought everything was changed and finally I could be normal. Simple things like a text "Are we okay?", "Are you tired?", "I miss you", or going out for movie, holding hands and walking around (I like walking), cuddling and hugging that made me so happy. Then suddenly he said he couldn't tolerate my job as he felt jealous. I asked him to give me times but he just gave some excuses then we didn't contact in few months that made me crying inside. I stopped using Whatsapp from that time as I'm afraid that I can't control myself but send him texts then receive a "seen" only. Last week he suddenly appeared in my shop and booked me. Very hard for me to be calmed in front of him. I couldn't hear what he said at that time. I actually don't understand why he came back. Anyway, I just gave him a massage and he could not see my tears while facing down. We're bad strangers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Babycat View Post
    I had a painful experiences instead. I thought everything was changed and finally I could be normal. Simple things like a text "Are we okay?", "Are you tired?", "I miss you", or going out for movie, holding hands and walking around (I like walking), cuddling and hugging that made me so happy. Then suddenly he said he couldn't tolerate my job as he felt jealous. I asked him to give me times but he just gave some excuses then we didn't contact in few months that made me crying inside. I stopped using Whatsapp from that time as I'm afraid that I can't control myself but send him texts then receive a "seen" only. Last week he suddenly appeared in my shop and booked me. Very hard for me to be calmed in front of him. I couldn't hear what he said at that time. I actually don't understand why he came back. Anyway, I just gave him a massage and he could not see my tears while facing down. We're bad strangers.
    I had similar experience where I provide that level of care to the ML but in my case it wasn't enough as she cares only for money.
    No need to be sad if your guy can't manage himself, he don't deserves you.

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    Exactly , plenty out there who would appreciate you

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    If you want a serious relationship, you quit the industry or be prepared to be played or go out with desperate losers

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    Quote Originally Posted by Newbee View Post
    If you want a serious relationship, you quit the industry or be prepared to be played or go out with desperate losers
    I'm preparing.

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