ML's can't have boyfriends...?

What babycat, simplelife, and some others have said are true. I can relate to it because my girlfriend is a ML.

Initially, it was difficult for both - I would walk the line of paranoia about her work and she was not too sure about me being genuine, as she would ponder if I still visited massage shops. It took effort and time to build trust and understanding, as well as acceptance. Communication was a barrier because her level of English was poor.

I don't exactly like what she does at work, but she has assured me she knows her limits - no sex with customers and limited touching. She appears to value herself and our relationship, so that goes a long way. I have looked beyong her massage work as it is not life time.

Looking at the bigger picture, what would be more sinister and morally worse - a ML who provides extras, or a husband / boyfriend / wife / girlfriend who has an affair? At least with the former, you know it is her work and she doesn't hide it; whereas with an affair, it is corruption of the heart.

will work out fine."

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Originally Posted by TallyHo

What babycat, simplelife, and some others have said are true. I can relate to it because my girlfriend is a ML.

Initially, it was difficult for both - I would walk the line of paranoia about her work and she was not too sure about me being genuine, as she would ponder if I still visited massage shops. It took effort and time to build trust and understanding, as well as acceptance. Communication was a barrier because her level of English was poor.

I don't exactly like what she does at work, but she has assured me she knows her limits - no sex with customers and limited touching. She appears to value herself and our relationship, so that goes a long way. I have looked beyong her massage work as it is not life time.

Looking at the bigger picture, what would be more sinister and morally worse - a ML who provides extras, or a husband / boyfriend / wife / girlfriend who has an affair? At least with the former, you know it is her work and she doesn't hide it; whereas with an affair, it is corruption of the heart.

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You wanna hope she does not have an account on this forum then ... :)

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Originally Posted by Babycat

I understand that it's tough situation. We have families and social lives around.

I'm not sure about others. Some of my colleagues want to be free to earn money. They want a good life with luxurious items around them, or they have to support their families. Some don't like serious relationships but just want sex partners.

Personally, I need someone who misses me indeed and be honest to me. A real relationship that I can be myself to him, and I can please him and make him happy.
The problem is I don't know if he's genuine or not, needs me to walk through the storms together or just wants my body. Also, I need time to prepare for my next steps. It's hard to stop everything suddenly without preparing. It doesn't mean that I chose money instead of him and he's not important to me. It's very easy if I just live for myself but I don't want to be a burden of anyone I love.
But he gets paranoid that I don't have enough time for him and instead of belong to him only, I let other guys look and touch me. And that's my fault.

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I think you have a good perspective. When you meet your man, he will be very lucky.

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Originally Posted by TallyHo

What babycat, simplelife, and some others have said are true. I can relate to it because my girlfriend is a ML.

Initially, it was difficult for both - I would walk the line of paranoia about her work and she was not too sure about me being genuine, as she would ponder if I still visited massage shops. It took effort and time to build trust and understanding, as well as acceptance. Communication was a barrier because her level of English was poor.

I don't exactly like what she does at work, but she has assured me she knows her limits - no sex with customers and limited touching. She appears to value herself and our relationship, so that goes a long way. I have looked beyong her massage work as it is not life time.

Looking at the bigger picture, what would be more sinister and morally worse - a ML who provides extras, or a husband / boyfriend / wife / girlfriend who has an affair? At least with the former, you know it is her work and she doesn't hide it; whereas with an affair, it is corruption of the heart.

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who could give us guarantee that if our partner is not an ML or a WL that our love life will be happily ever after?

after all, this is just another borderline case and Brother TallyHo wish you all the best and hopefully you don't make your love on a wasteland

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Originally Posted by garfield

I think you have a good perspective. When you meet your man, he will be very lucky.

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I had a painful experiences instead. I thought everything was changed and finally I could be normal. Simple things like a text "Are we okay?", "Are you tired?", "I miss you", or going out for movie, holding hands and walking around (I like walking), cuddling and hugging that made me so happy. Then suddenly he said he couldn't tolerate my job as he felt jealous. I asked him to give me times but he just gave some excuses then we didn't contact in few months that made me crying inside. I stopped using Whatsapp from that time as I'm afraid that I can't control myself but send him texts then receive a "seen" only. Last week he suddenly appeared in my shop and booked me. Very hard for me to be calmed in front of him. I couldn't hear what he said at that time. I actually don't understand why he came back. Anyway, I just gave him a massage and he could not see my tears while facing down. We're bad strangers.

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Originally Posted by Babycat

I had a painful experiences instead. I thought everything was changed and finally I could be normal. Simple things like a text "Are we okay?", "Are you tired?", "I miss you", or going out for movie, holding hands and walking around (I like walking), cuddling and hugging that made me so happy. Then suddenly he said he couldn't tolerate my job as he felt jealous. I asked him to give me times but he just gave some excuses then we didn't contact in few months that made me crying inside. I stopped using Whatsapp from that time as I'm afraid that I can't control myself but send him texts then receive a "seen" only. Last week he suddenly appeared in my shop and booked me. Very hard for me to be calmed in front of him. I couldn't hear what he said at that time. I actually don't understand why he came back. Anyway, I just gave him a massage and he could not see my tears while facing down. We're bad strangers.

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I had similar experience where I provide that level of care to the ML but in my case it wasn't enough as she cares only for money.
No need to be sad if your guy can't manage himself, he don't deserves you.

Exactly , plenty out there who would appreciate you

If you want a serious relationship, you quit the industry or be prepared to be played or go out with desperate losers

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Originally Posted by Newbee

If you want a serious relationship, you quit the industry or be prepared to be played or go out with desperate losers

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I'm preparing.

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Originally Posted by Babycat

I'm preparing.

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Is it that hard to quit? Geez... Unless you take action, you will say the same thing every day and one day it will be too late. Perhaps the greed has sucked you in too far to turn back

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Originally Posted by Newbee

Is it that hard to quit? Geez... Unless you take action, you will say the same thing every day and one day it will be too late. Perhaps the greed has sucked you in too far to turn back

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Sounds so ironic. Case closed.

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Originally Posted by Babycat

I had a painful experiences instead. I thought everything was changed and finally I could be normal. Simple things like a text "Are we okay?", "Are you tired?", "I miss you", or going out for movie, holding hands and walking around (I like walking), cuddling and hugging that made me so happy. Then suddenly he said he couldn't tolerate my job as he felt jealous. I asked him to give me times but he just gave some excuses then we didn't contact in few months that made me crying inside. I stopped using Whatsapp from that time as I'm afraid that I can't control myself but send him texts then receive a "seen" only. Last week he suddenly appeared in my shop and booked me. Very hard for me to be calmed in front of him. I couldn't hear what he said at that time. I actually don't understand why he came back. Anyway, I just gave him a massage and he could not see my tears while facing down. We're bad strangers.

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You have the right too refuse service to anyone you are not comfortable with.
If your shop insists you go ahead with providing a service to that person stay strong and refuse.

If you like going for walks i know quite a few around sydney and surrounds.
If you do not drive/have car access some are convenient by public transport.
Most can be done in a few hours and others are day trips for you and your friends to see the sites and escape the cbd for a while (assuming you live in the cbd).
Getting out in nature and enjoying the scenery breaks up the routine of day to day life.

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Originally Posted by Babycat

Sounds so ironic. Case closed.

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Stick to jerking guy's cocks. You might find your future husband there

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Originally Posted by tontnam

Truth. At what point would a girl quit. People do go through career change 3 times they say. And it's inevitable in this field that value declines with age. Difference between ginza rate and 533 rate is an example. And I am sure that after a number of years Jacking off guys all day is not doing the girls brain matter any good nor aiding in development of ideas on how to get out of this mediocre role. And it seems like they could become slave to themselves and spend all this money on addictions --my frequency of this reduced dramatically when I realised that some form of addiction was used to keep these girls going after being fucked by 10 to 15 guys a day. That is a soul sapping activity.

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Originally Posted by Newbee

Let's be honest... How many guys will accept their girlfriend doing that sort of work? I definitely wouldn't

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Originally Posted by cmk76

Then I must be an extra special guy who would come home to an ex gf who had swallowed a client's load and still wanted to make out with me... No, it wasn't easy living with a uni student/escort gf... It made me feel less of a man when she was making more money than I was...

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There are a lots of grey areas that hard to define black or white. Everyone has their own opinions and choices and should be respected.

Working ladies are stereotyped. That they are hyper sexual nymphos , sleep with
men on first date or that they are damaged and needed to be treated as fragile.
Sure this would apply to some but i'm sure there would be also some who were
authentic and genuine.
Are real women any different ? If you can't accept there current or past history
that's your right. But remember the man who sleeps with hundred's or thousands
of hookers who wants a real partner is no different from the working lady who
wants a real partner and some affection. They have a hard life so if they can
find some real happiness they deserve it.

I don't think many people would want to just quit a well paying job to a lower paying job for a "potential" or "unforeseeable" love affair which may come along their way. Well I know for a fact I won't unless its quite clear its real.

Its not that easy to find someone that you like apparently. Standards etc, idgaf because I don't want one.

If something is meant to happen its going to happen sooner or later. Just chill. In the mean time, stack that paper and plan that retirement game.

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Originally Posted by Babycat

There are a lots of grey areas that hard to define black or white. Everyone has their own opinions and choices and should be respected.

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You might need an operation to make your pussy tight again so your future husband doesn't know about your past

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Originally Posted by newbee

you might need an operation to make your pussy tight again so your future husband doesn't know about your past

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nothing to comment

Babycat,

The spark, the fire within, it burns brightly, brighter than a thousand suns... Don't let this line of work extinguish it!

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Originally Posted by Newbee

You might need an operation to make your pussy tight again so your future husband doesn't know about your past

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This is uninformed and unnecessary.

The reason for being a working lady is monetary but who can blame them . If a girl
can use her body to her advantage that is smart. I mean who wants to work until
there 70 ? I am male but unless I win the lottery I will have to work another
40 odd years. I will get bad back , aching joints and probably arthritis.
Why would a women want to experience this ? I remember when I was working
part time and you would work with older woman and you could see the effects
of work and the stress. Then you would meet ladies with BMW' s and you could
see that though they might raise have to raise children they have a life that
is secure. Anybody that has a daughter wants them to marry somebody
rich .
That's not been selfish but true. I mean who wants there daughter to have a
tough life . Its a jungle out there survival of the fittest and if a girl uses her
assets to get ahead I say you have the right idea.

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Originally Posted by Newbee

You might need an operation to make your pussy tight again so your future husband doesn't know about your past

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What kind of ass hole and low life are you to say this kind of things to a young lady !

What has she ever done to you to deserve this sort of insults ?

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Originally Posted by Newbee

You might need an operation to make your pussy tight again so your future husband doesn't know about your past

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This type of comment is fulfilling the stereotyping society view of individuals
who see working ladies are men who exploit women and don't care and
have hearts of stone.
Thankfully majority of punters on this forum don't share the view of this
member above.

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Originally Posted by Newbee

You might need an operation to make your pussy tight again so your future husband doesn't know about your past

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I often wonder what guys with small dicks think, now I know. Wake up and smell the roses buddy, it's because your dick is too small all along. Maybe you can go for surgery to enlarge your dick...